What makes you a Beautiful Disaster?
BD has given me the strength to overcome anything! I’ve been through a lot—and I’m here, alive and well.
Why do you identify with the Beautiful Disaster brand?
Twenty years of a toxic relationship... each collection is relatable and helps bring positive vibes to my mornings.
Tell us your Beautiful Disaster story:
My husband and I met in 2001, shortly after my high school graduation. We married in 2009, started a family in 2011, and—sadly—our relationship ended in 2022 when he took his own life, just 27 days before our final divorce hearing.
The abuse started in 2003 when we moved in together. It was always yelling and name-calling, and I just accepted his apologies, time after time. Over the years, the mental and emotional abuse got pretty brutal. Isolated from my family and friends, I was your old-school, barefoot, pregnant-in-the-kitchen type.
Then came 2020. COVID isolated me further, and the physical abuse escalated fast. He cheated. He manipulated. He lied. And he almost killed me.
What happened for you to turn it around?
The night he wanted to kill me—and our kids.
Thank God, to this day, that he was too drunk to see the gun on the landing by the front door. He paced by it multiple times that night. He was arrested, held on psych for 24 hours, then released.
I filed for a restraining order, custody, and divorce—all within 24 hours.
Name 3 things you’ve done to move closer to happiness:
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I moved closer to God.
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I reconnected with my family.
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I chose to live.
What is your favorite Beautiful Disaster collection, past or present, and why?
"Throw me to the wolves, I will come back leading the pack."
It’s fierce, and it’s me now.
Comments
Sonia said:
Your story BD is an inspiration, I met my abuser when I was in middle school & I’m not at the point yet to be able to talk to much about it but we stayed together throughout high-school.. anyway it was over thirty yrs of hell & our children witnessed & I would literally put myself in the line of outrages when he went after our children & on top my daily him putting his hands on me & other abuses I took beatings for my children to protect them.. I finally got my wake up when he pointed his dad’s service gun at my head & held onto my youngest & mad her watch as he pulled the trigger.. the gun jammed he got angry about that & then went into laughing & smiling saying he was just joking. My older kids had moved out as soon as they were of age to ,to get away from him so it was just me & my youngest there with him. He got severely ill at work a few weeks after & was admitted to the hospital… so my neighbors who could hear everything & checked on me & my youngest everytime he left helped me change the locks on the house & put locks on the windows & helped us with other things we needed done.(the house was in my name) We ended up losing our home along with all our neighbors when the landlord sold all of them without warning any of his tenants. So now without a home of our own we live with my oldest daughter & her husband. It’s worse what my abuser did but I’m not at the point yet to be able to talk about much more than I put here. We lived in hell. Thank you for your story BD & your inspiration.
Denise Weiser said:
WESTERN AND BLINGY TSHIRTS
Lyndee DeBolt said:
I can relate so much to your story! I am two years out of my second disastrous marriage. Keep moving forward. You are enough and worthy of peace and happiness! ❤️
Laura Herb said:
I’m so sorry you were put through so much pain. No one should ever have to experience what you went through. I praise God that your alive and survived life from a extremely toxic relationship. God has definitely had Angels watching over you. May God continue to protect and bless you and your family. The cycle has been broken. Sending my love 💘 from one Beautiful Disaster tribe sister to another 💕