Anonymous: Survivor, Not a Statistic.
What makes you a Beautiful Disaster?
A man thought he could break me, but I came out the other side stronger and more beautiful than ever.
Why do you Identify with the Beautiful Disaster Brand?
We are all Beautiful Disasters in our own way.
My Beautiful Disaster Story
I was in a marriage for 13 years. During that time, I endured unimaginable abuse—he broke my wrists and ribs, smashed my face against dashboards and walls. It didn’t matter what I said or did; nothing stopped him.
He would lock me in the closet for hours. He cheated on me repeatedly, got other women pregnant, and then lied when child support papers arrived. He told me I was useless, replaceable, stupid, ugly—a fat cow. You name it, I heard it.
I wasn’t allowed to work, and if I left the house, he tracked my mileage and demanded receipts for every purchase. If I couldn’t produce them, I suffered the consequences. One night, he punched me in the face while I was sleeping, screaming about a package on the porch. He accused me of cheating, claiming a man must have delivered it—only to later realize that the package had come from his own company.
The horrors I endured at his hands are endless.
What happened for you to turn it around?
The moment everything changed was when he put his hands on my 3-year-old grandson. At that moment, the rage inside me ignited. I went toe-to-toe with all 6’5", 380 pounds of him. I refused to let him alter my grandson’s life in any way.
With the help of the police, I kicked him out and filed for divorce the very next day. This April marks my one-year freedom anniversary.
Name 3 things you’ve done to move closer to happiness.
- I finished dental college.
- I got a job.
- I am finally living life on my own terms.
What is your favorite Beautiful Disaster collection, past or present, and why?
Phoenix—because it represents rebirth, renewal, and the ability to overcome adversity.
Comments
Laura said:
I’m so sorry you went through so much pain and abuse. You deserve to be loved and cherished. I’m proud of you for standing up for yourself and getting out of a toxic relationship. Praying for your family. Much love 💞
Nicki said:
I am really so very proud of you! It is terrifying to be in, and terrifying to go. You did it!!!!! Cycle breaker! <3
Tammy said:
One day and one moment at a time. It gets better.
I pictured myself in your shoes watching him go after your grandchild, I instantly felt this bubbling up rage and results would have landed me in prison.
Pamela said:
I just wanted to say congratulations on your one year anniversary coming up quickly. I hung in there for 27 years I left him when we were married for 25 years finally. The kids were grown I also endured unbelievable abuse physical, verbal, mental, sexual, and just to have achieved and gain my freedom has been the most amazing experience scary as h e double toothpicks but but truly unbelievable we are perfectly imperfect survivors and I hope to be holding the light at the end of the tunnel for someone who wants to give up and prove to them that there is hope and survival is possible. Congratulations and give yourself compassion, love and understanding this whole life of ours is an education and we learn everyday.
I’m eternally grateful to the universe and to this tribe because believe me they have pulled me out of the darkest of places I wear the brand proudly and it empowers me and has shown me that I am a Beautiful Disaster and a Perfectly Imperfect Survivor! And so are you!
Pamela
April said:
Dear Anonymous,
Thank you so very much for sharing your story. Carma will get him, mark my words! I’m glad you found the strength to leave that s*** head and stand on your own two feet. Feels good doesn’t it. I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! I’m shedding tears of happiness and joy for you. You truly are a inspiration 😊